Golden encourages people to look at the work-life balance equation in a different way:
Instead of thinking we’re circus acrobats trying to juggle our lives while walking on a tightrope, think of yourself as a museum curator pulling together an exhibit. The most important decision to make is, ‘What is your exhibit about?’
Using this model pick out the two or three main “works of art” that is your life and disregard pieces that no longer fit in your life and make other parts of your life side exhibits.
I like the idea of viewing my life as art. It’s something I aspire to as I contemplate the renaissance of Clay.
“If you eliminate things that are unimportant and then spend just enough time on the things that are necessary but not important you will have energy to do the things that are your greatness—the things that matter and where your passion lies.”
Of course, it’s not an easy game:
There are things that you may do because they’re meaningful and enriching for you, and things you do that you don’t like very much but your boss or your family needs you to do them. You cannot ignore the priorities of the people around you. The danger is we make everybody else’s priorities more important than your own all of the time. That’s part of work-life balance that doesn’t work
But the bottom line is get clear about what’s real and forge a new path forward.
I stumbled upon this essay about deathbed regrets.
I thought it was worthy of a coffee contemplation. Here are the five most common regrets expressed by the dying:
I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Broadly speaking, it seems most people wish for a more meaningful life.
Not the most cheery thing to be thinking about on a Saturday morning.
But it might just be the push you need to make the changes you’ve been avoiding or to do the thing you’ve been saying you’ll do someday.
Note: the essay takes a different slant and encourages people to be skeptical of deathbed regrets. But, then, that’s what philosophers do, isn’t it?
Here’s something for you to contemplate over coffee (or tea) today:
what are your thoughts or feelings on purpose? do you believe we have a pre-determined purpose (god/goddess-given)? is our purpose purely biologically driven as directed by our genes? or do we have no purpose other than the one we make for ourselves?
The words in the accompanying photo really resonate with me. They remind me of what Helen Keller said, that “life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.”
The very thing that makes an adventure an adventure is the risk of the unknown. If you already know the outcome, it’s not much of an adventure.
The problem is as humans we crave certainty and control. We err on the side of caution and try desperately to maintain control of ourselves, our environment, and the people around us.
We want to live life fully, but only up to the edge of losing control, and then we ease back on the throttle, careful not to get too close to the edge.
And so we never know how far we can go for fear of going too far.
The danger there, of course, is that we may never quite reach our full potential because we keep easing back on the throttle just when we are about to break through the edge of the known into the unknown.
Ha. Ok. There’s your coffee contemplation for today. Enjoy. 🙃
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